I was not always a positive person – I was depressed, full of worry over money, my kids and just life in general. I hated feeling that way, and was at a loss of what to do. My kids fed off of my attitude and became the same way. It took me moving away from Ontario to become the positive person I am now. Between moving to Calgary and then moving to Prague, I realized that the environment I exposed myself to back then definitely affected my attitude.
Now that I have returned to live in Ontario after being away since 2011, I have become very aware of the negativity in my life. I remain a positive person, but the people I am exposed to are incredibly negative people.
There comes a time in every woman’s life that the change happens – yes menopause. I am going through it right now and hot flashes are NOT fun. I don’t seem to be experiencing mood swings but there are people at work going through this right now. In particular, one woman. She is the most negative, miserable person I have ever met in my life who has the biggest mood swings I have ever seen. And her mood has almost made me succumb back to my negative thinking. One day last week, she had me in such a state, I was glad to have my break. During my break, I sat down, closed my eyes and meditated. I realized that it was not me in particular that she is angry at (well maybe it’s me a bit but I don’t know why and that’s not my problem). After deep breathing and then listening to some music, I came back, put a smile on my face and have not let her bother me since.
I refuse to let anyone ever again affect me and my positive attitude. The customers enjoy talking to me, my other fellow employees and I have a lot of fun working together and I love this job. It is not teaching – one day it will be my career again but right now is not that time.
I know I do not need to move away to find peace in my mind and enjoy my time back in my hometown. As I have discovered, there is so much to do in life and so much to see and enjoy, and I won’t let little things bring me down like I did years ago.
I agree. Who you are around can definitely affect how you feel. I have a foster daughter that is always negative and angry and by end of the day everyone around her is acting the same way. We need to avoid those type of people as much as possible for our own sake.
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It is really hard to keep a positive attitude when you are around it every day. You just need to find ways to try not to let it affect you. Meditation works for me.
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I’ve learned to walk away but she does affect my wife greatly which at the end still affects me.
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It’s so hard. I am sorry to hear this. Hopefully it gets better.
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Oh yes we have experienced the same at the work place too. And they were not even with the menopause ‘excuse’! Indeed these kinds of attitudes is infectious. Definitely something to avoid!
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I think my positive attitude makes her mad lol
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Great job so far. Keep at it and stay positive!
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Thanks!
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