Walking the beat of my own drum

I walk to the beat of my own drum.  I have been doing this for a few years, but I will admit, there have been many times that I have followed the crowd.


Following the crowd during school seems to be something most of us do.  But who are we following anyway?  The popular kids?  The sports kids?  Have you ever thought about that?


Was there someone in your life that you wanted to be like?  That you wanted to be?  I know for me that there were a few people I wanted to be like. Especially in high school.  I wanted to be confident and outgoing, like so many of my friends were.  But I was shy and just hung back, trying to gain the courage to speak up.  Things changed in college and later on in my life, after my divorce.  But if there was anything that I could have changed, it would be to be more confident in myself.  To be stronger and self-assured.


Do I regret the way things worked out in my life?  No.  I believe that everything that has happened in my life has happened when it needed to and when the time was right.


Do I follow the beat of my own drum now?  Absolutely!!  Would I follow the crowd now?  Unless that crowd was heading to South Africa or Australia or somewhere really cool – then maybe in that case.  But no – I would not follow the crowd now.


Follow the crowd or walk to the beat of your own drum.  You choose.  What will you do?


6 thoughts on “Walking the beat of my own drum

  1. Mel & Suan

    To each their own. As we all run the race called life, we need to settle into our own pace, carve our own paths and set our own aspirations. What is achievement for us? Being a better person today than yesterday and being in a better place that before having worked our way there.

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  2. Carla Laporte

    I’m learning more to be myself and not care what people think. I just blogged about people pleasing today, something I’ve always struggled with.

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  3. Chloé McLellan

    I love this! Growing up, I always followed the crowd. Now that I’m getting older, I’ve started asking myself why. Like what you said, I’ve always gravitated towards the confident and outgoing girls in school too, likely because I was insecure and shy myself. Instead of just trying to hang out with people I wanted to be like, I’ve realized the importance of becoming that person on my own. Life is just too short to not be happy with the person you are, and that realization has been so empowering to me. Great post!

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