Do you consider yourself Velcro or Teflon? Do you let things said to you stick with you or do you let them slide off?
During this difficult time, I think we are all under a lot of stress and how we deal with it is affecting us both physically and mentally.
As many know, I am a positive person and always try to look at the positive in the world. It’s been very difficult these past couple of months to do that but I really strive to do this every day.
That being said, I am also not one to talk much about my feelings with anyone. I tend to keep them bottled up and eventually stress gets the best of me and I blurt things out without really thinking about the repercussions of what I’m saying and who I’m saying it to. I don’t mean to say things that might be hurtful to someone, but there are days when life has taken over and I don’t let things slide off of me, like Teflon. This happened just recently and I fear that I may have caused a rift between myself and a very dear friend. It was not intentional but it has happened and while I don’t regret what I said, I wish I had said it in a nicer way. The Velcro part of my brain got me saying things that my normal Teflon brain wouldn’t have said.
I blame this on the pandemic because it has been stressful for me, as it has with everyone. I need to get back to my positive self-talk, which is how I usually am. I heard Gillian Mandich speaking on a local talk show today, and what she said about the Velcro and Teflon brain resonated with me, and what she said with positive self-talk was what I needed to hear.
“Positive self-talk is the flip of negative self-talk. It’s not about seeing the world through rose-coloured glasses or looking at circumstances with eyes that see only what you want to see. Rather, positive self-talk is about recognizing the truth, in situations and in yourself. It’s about showing yourself compassion and understanding for who you are and what you’ve been through.” Gillian Mandich
So just remember, as I am each day, that it’s okay to be stressed at this time, but also remember to think before you speak, because you really don’t know what the other person is going through. Let’s all be kind to each other and be respectful. And remember, be safe!