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Minimalizing my life

Does this add value to my life? Is this something that I need? Is it filling a void inside me?

These are things I have been asking myself lately as I begin to pack up my life and move once again. As an aside, I love moving! It’s one of my favourite things to do! Anyway – do I need all this stuff I have accumulated in the past three years? In the past 5 years? Why do I still have a box of stuff from China hiding under my dresser? Do I think it’s going to suddenly add value to my life somehow? I really don’t think so.

The Minimalists documentary has fascinated me since I saw it the first time back in January. I am watching it again to justify how I’m feeling right now. It is something that really resonates with me, and its making me take stock of the stuff in my life – and not just material stuff. Stuff in my head that I’ve been carrying around for years. It really is time to let it all go.

I was a much calmer person three years ago when I was in China. Coming back to Canada, getting a job that I just needed to have – I needed an income in order to live back here – but it’s not a career. Being an English teacher overseas truly changed the way I thought, and the way I reacted to people. I don’t necessarily want to go back to the travelling teacher end of things – at least not right now with a grandson arriving soon! But I want to feel that calmness again. And I know that having the minimal amount of things will help me with that. I am going to be calm and as stress-free as possible. I want to add value to my life by doing something that means something to me.

So I am moving on, to a new adventure, a new chapter in my life, and my stuff from the past will be left behind, as much as I can. As for the box of stuff from China under my dresser – I will let it go – sometime!

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These are the treasures of China that I treasure the most

Making memories

Well my time in my hometown is coming to an end, again. I have moved back here a few times over my adult life, and again I am moving on in a month. I am so grateful to have been able to reconnect with old high school friends, make some new friends along the way, and be with my family over the past 3 years-ish. I will miss Welland but I am not going too far this time so I will be back often for visits. In the meantime, I will enjoy the lovely park beside near me, and enjoy the time I have left here.

Time for myself

Some days, I just need to go off, and spend time on my own. Today was one of those days. I don’t usually need more than an hour away from everything just to settle my mind, breathe deeply, and enjoy my quiet time. I was thinking of how quickly my time is coming to move from my hometown to just down the highway a bit, to be closer to my daughter and soon to be grandson! It’s quickly coming and I am excited for another new chapter in my life. For now, I will take the time I need to re-energize and to enjoy my last month here.

Live for today

This is something I read earlier today, and it’s something worth sharing, and remembering.

We only get one chance at this life we have, so do what you need to do to be happy. Don’t let yourself get stuck in a rut, or in an unhappy relationship, or in a job you hate. You have to do things that make you happy. That’s how you will remember your life. Not working at a job you hate. Not being stuck in a place where you are unhappy (relationships or other things). Do what you need to do today FOR YOU! Because at the end of the day – you only have yourself to answer to, right?

This is a quick blog – just something I needed to get out there for myself and for me to remember, but I also hope others will step back for a moment and remember this too.

Have a great day everyone.

My thoughts on the current situation in America

The murder of George Floyd – and yes I see it as a murder  – was uncalled for.  Completely. 

Why did the police officer pull the man out of the POLICE CAR and then throw him to the ground, handcuffed, and kneel on his neck?  Why – I don’t care if there were extenuating circumstances prior to this part of the whole thing – why did that police officer feel the need to do that?  Was it fun for him to see this helpless man beg for his life?  Did he get enjoyment out of subduing a black man until he took his last breath?  Seriously – what is wrong with these people?

These people – racists – because that’s exactly what they are – are despicable human beings.  We are ALL HUMAN BEINGS. Every single one of us.  White, black, brown – every colour of the rainbow – are human beings.  The problem is the racism doesn’t stop there.  LGBTQ are treated the same way by these so-called humans – these racists. 

I am angry.  This whole situation that is happening in America saddens me, and angers me, and makes me stop and be thankful that I live in a mostly peaceful country.  Canada is not perfect but we are WAY more tolerant than these racist Americans are.  

How can a fellow human being (and I use this term incredibly lightly when it comes to these monsters) want to physically hurt another human simply because they don’t like their colour, or their gender, or their sexual orientation?  WHY!!????!?!?   I just cannot comprehend it.  It is beyond my thinking that anyone can hate another human so much that they want to physically harm them – and not because that black or brown person did anything to them or not.  In some cases, these victims didn’t do a thing and they were still harmed in some way or another. 

When I was travelling back in 2014 to 2017, I saw racism in other countries.  But I did NOT see the violence or the complete disregard in any other country like we see today in America.  I can’t even call it the United States of America – there is nothing united about them at all.  And while I want to lay a lot of the blame on the present “President”, I can’t.  He has most definitely not helped the situation, but the racism has been lying in wait for many years, obviously.  These people were just waiting for the opportunity to let it all out of their disgusting minds.  Their minds must have been at the point of exploding during the Obama years – I cannot imagine the hatred that must have been building in their minds every time he spoke so eloquently to the nation.  While he wept for the Sandy Hook victims.  While he sang Amazing Grace at the Church that had been shot up by a white nationalist.  It’s sad to know how much hatred that they built up inside themselves about their President while he was honouring those fallen and shedding tears at the loss of young children. 

My heart aches for the many friends I have that live in the States.  I hope they continue to be safe.  I hope that none of their families are hurt during this most dangerous time.   I fear a civil war is brewing there and that again makes me sad and frightened at the same time.    

I wish there was peace in the world, I wish there was no pandemic, I wish we could all love each other with no restrictions.  My wishes are far-reaching, but I will continue to wish and hope that perhaps, one day, this day will come and we will all live in a better world.  God speed to all those in this world who have died senselessly. 

Dealing with dementia

This is a difficult time for everyone – the pandemic has brought about so many trials and tribulations for people all over the world. It’s a stressful time, even for the most positive people.

My father has dementia. When I was working full time, I knew he had it but it seemed like it was quite mild – I was concerned as any daughter would be but I felt that it wasn’t too bad so it was easier to deal with. However, since I have now been home for 2 months, I realize that it is not just a mild case.

It’s difficult to see my father’s dementia come on so quickly. It’s stressful for me, and even more so for my mother. She is doing as much as she can, and I am doing whatever I can to help her so that she can help him. Whatever I can do to make it easier for her I will do.

However, I am going back to work this coming Monday. I need to get myself back to work for my own well-being. And I will still be here every morning and will be home at the time he tends to go to bed. I am staying positive – there hopefully will be more help soon for them. In the meantime, I am doing what I can to help.

It’s hard to see our parents age, and it’s even harder to see them age during difficult times and with dementia. I know I am strong enough to help and to work, and I will continue to do that – but there are times I need just to step away even for a couple of hours.

So during these times, if you have the ability to do so, go and see your parents (even if through a window and wave to them) just to let them know there are people out there thinking of them and loving them. It’s all any of us can do during this time. Have a good night everyone. And be safe.