2019 was not a great year for many reasons, and I was really looking forward to the start of 2020 in hopes that this year would be better. Well, praying and dreaming and hoping has worked!
My son has moved out to Vancouver BC and is now working at a fantastic job and is advancing in his position quickly. He loves it out there. He’s happy and it was the move he needed. He has dreamed of living there for a long time, so his dream has come true!
My daughter is expecting this year – in August – and I am OVER THE MOON about being a grandma. I honestly never thought she’d want a baby but here we are – a new baby and a new life is on the horizon. I cannot wait to be a Grandma!!
As for me, changes are on the horizon for me as well. Changes that are exciting and also maybe a bit overwhelming, but it’s all good changes. I am excited for this year and all the changes coming!
Never give up on your dreams – with hard work and perseverance, you can make your dreams come true!!
I believe myself to be a very positive person. I try not to let people or things bring me down. Of course, there are some days that this is not possible, but for the most part, I tend to stay pretty positive things.
That’s not to say that I don’t have bad days. I’ve had a few of those lately, but when I’m feeling down, I look at the 10 habits of positive people, and re-set my mind.
1. Positive people expect their plans to work out
Sometimes our plans don’t work out like we want them to, but I try to make sure mine do. I usually have a Plan B ready just in case Plan A doesn’t work out, and that’s okay too. Having a back up is never a bad thing!
2. Positive people don’t dwell on failure
I used to dwell on my failures a lot – my parenting skills, my financial situation – but I have learned through reading and counselling that it’s not healthy to dwell on it. Learn from the mistakes and don’t make them again!
3. They are always busy doing something useful
Okay so maybe I don’t do this all the time. Surfing the internet doesn’t seem overly useful but then, it is my way of relaxing so perhaps it’s not that bad after all.
4. They don’t wait for change, they create it
Absolutely this is me! I have never been afraid of change, and actually thrive on it. When creating my changes, it makes me happy and even more positive.
5. Positive people learn to let go
This is the hardest one for me. I have learned to let a lot go, but there are still twangs of guilt that come up every now and then that bring me down, sometimes for days. But eventually I do let it go and I realize that other people’s opinions are just that – their opinions. It should not reflect on me. I am still learning this one.
6. They don’t wait for happiness, they create it
This is the same as change – you just need to do what makes you happy. Happiness won’t come to you, you need to make your happiness.
7. Positive people live in the present moment
Definitely do this all the time!! No sense living in the past, it’s done and can’t be fixed. The future is not here yet. Today is. Live for today.
8. They search for solutions
Again, I try to do this as much as I can. As long as I am trying to find that solution, I will be positive because I’m working on it. I am not sitting back and saying oh well it is what it is.
9. Positive people never consider themselves as victims of circumstances
I used to consider myself a victim. Sometimes the best thing to do is talk to someone – a friend, a therapist – it’s not a bad thing to do. And it will make things clearer for you. Taking charge of your life is the best way to become more positive.
10. Positive people take responsibility for their actions and for their life
Don’t play the blame game. It is your life. Take responsibility. Own it. Make it your life. Not someone else’s. Don’t imitate others, thinking that oh well they are happy so I should do that too. If it’s not something YOU really want, then it won’t ever make you happy.
So these are the things that I do, sometimes not every day. I have had a few days lately that I have not been my positive self, but I woke up this morning and thought – what is wrong with me? NOTHING! Nothing is wrong with me. I am allowed to have a bad day every now and then. It’s part of life. Nothing is perfect, but that doesn’t mean I stop being the positive person I am.
Today was a good day that started with breakfast with a good friend, and some shopping with her. It was a lovely way to start the day.
I arrived home to have my parents ask me if I wanted to go
to Fort Erie this afternoon for some more shopping and an early dinner. They suggested
one of my favourite restaurants to go to, so I said SURE!
As is usual these days, I got behind the wheel. My parents got themselves situated and off we
went. As we were driving, some regular chatter went on about what we were
driving by, I had some back seat driving directed at me (which I politely
ignored), and overall a nice drive to the stores we were heading to.
My mum and I went into the store while my dad stayed in the car. We went to a few stores, purchased some things (clothing and baking stuff were on my agenda today), and came back to the car. We got in, headed to the restaurant and enjoyed a lovely dinner of fish and chips. So far so good! As I was getting my dad’s walker in the car, I had an inspiration to take them for a drive by the old campground that we camped at for many years. After a quick discussion, it was decided that yes we would do that.
After about 20 minutes, we came to the road where the
campground was. I was immediately asked where I was going. I replied, again
politely, that this was the road we camped on.
We drove past it, to see that it was not the same as when we
camped. In fact, it does not resemble
the campground at all. Rather disappointing but we had many fond memories there
and we regaled them.
I decided I would continue on with the drive – I love driving so any excuse to drive is a good one for me! We drove along the lake, they told me stories of different places we were passing, and as the time was passing, I realized I had travelled much further than I had planned, and in an area I really wasn’t familiar with. So my thought was to start heading back towards our town, without really saying anything about not knowing where I was. But – a ha!! – my father caught on and asked me if I knew where I was. Good heartedly, I laughed and said of course!
He did not fall for it, and I could see him looking out the window being a bit confused. He commented that he had no idea where we were and if I knew where I was going. My mother caught my look, and started laughing – with me? At me? I like to think she was laughing with me – again good heartedly I said sure I do. I am not driving into the lake so I know I’m going in the right direction! Laughter filled the car.
I got a bit concerned as I continued on, as I honestly had no idea where I was. Not a clue. There was a sign at one corner and I didn’t recognize the name at all. Except that I had managed to drive into another county – which was not close to home. So, in my mind, I told myself – self, turn right at the next big road and hope for the best. So I did. Another comment was made, asking me what the name of the road was that we were on, I waited for a highway sign, and said the highway number. Well, Dad wanted to know more about the road, and I said I don’t know but I am pretty sure I’m going in the right direction. My mum looked over and smirked – I swear she was laughing with me but I was beginning to think she was laughing at me. Ah well, it was okay. I continued driving for what seemed a longer time than it took to get to where we we had been – and then I saw it. A corner I recognized! I triumphantly said see I knew where I was going all the time! But they were on to my game – and both laughed. And I knew then that they were both laughing at me.
Sometimes you just need to take a guess, pick a road and
GO! You never know where it will take
you. Sometimes it will take you exactly where you want to be!
Shadows, clouds in the sky, so many things that are every day events can make our imaginations play tricks on our minds. So – what can you see?
Remember when you were a child, and you’d lay on your back and look at the clouds? You’d see a dinosaur, or maybe a rabbit. Your imagination would be at play while looking at the clouds float by in the sky.
I think adults need to do this more. I was out walking today, a few times, and enjoying the gorgeous day that we had here, and I looked up at the blue skies and watched the clouds float by. They looked like waves to me today. Wispy type waves.
I love taking pictures. I try to get a good angle when I take them to make them more interesting, at least to me! I look back at the pictures and try to see things I may have missed when taking the picture. And, maybe not surprising to some, all my pictures are taken with my phone. I love my Samsung!
Maybe tomorrow, if the skies are blue and clouds float by, we should all take a moment and look up, stop and see what we can see.
Do you have a positive image of yourself? Are you happy with your body? Are there things you want to change about
your physical image to make you feel happy?
Many questions – but they are ones I have been thinking
about a lot in the past few months. So
much so that I have decided to join Weight Watchers (or WW as they are now
called!), and I also am now going to the Y on a regular basis (just about every
day). Yet, I continue to self-sabotage
by eating whatever I want at night – regardless of the amount of sugar is
Do I have a positive image of myself? Yes. I
am a strong, independent woman who may be overweight but still confident about
how I look.
Am I happy with my body?
Not really but that’s why I joined WW and the Y. I am trying very hard to get my body into
shape once again and feel healthy. I
have an insatiable sweet tooth and it drives me crazy but I really don’t know
how to solve that (drinking water when I am hungry does NOT help, and neither
do carrots!). So, I self-sabotage with
cookies (at least they are sugar free but they are still cookies!). One day I hope to develop the self control I
really want. For now I will continue to
eat, exercise and count those points with WW!
Are there things I want to change about my physical image to
make me feel happy? Yes. I want to get back to a size 12, where I felt
the best. I want to be able to buy
clothes in the departments that are not “plus size”. I want to be able to wear a cute summer dress
without worrying about my flabby arms and tummy showing.
Self-image is such an important part of our lives, especially
from the early teens. I always
considered myself as the heavy one among my friends in high school. They could all wear cute clothes, and jeans
that fit nicely. I was always the heavy
one (at least that’s how I perceived myself). And this was in the early 80’s – long before
social media and the constant stream of these images the young girls have to
look at now.
I feel bad for the young girls (and boys) coming into high
school, and having to deal with bullying because of an image they portray,
which definitely is more prominent in this day and age. I would love to be able to go to my old high
school, and sit down with a group of young ladies in Grade 9 and explain to
them that they ARE beautiful just the way they are. Being a woman is a beautiful thing, and we
all struggled in our teens with some demon in our mind telling us we weren’t good
enough in some way. I want young girls
to know that this does NOT have to affect them as they grow older. That they can take control of their lives and
learn to ignore the bullying and negativity, and feel beautiful just the way they
are. No matter their size or whatever
else it is that brings their self-image down.
Empowering young women is something that I strive to do! I want to let young women know all over the
world that every single one of them is beautiful in their own way, and that
they are all strong and can do whatever it is they strive to do, no matter what
anyone tells them.
So yes – we may all have our doubts about ourselves now and
then. That is a normal thing! It’s not anything unusual and we can overcome
these feelings. Just remember – we are
April showers bring May flowers. Most of us have heard this all our lives. The flowers are starting to arrive, and the colours are becoming brighter. No longer are we seeing the dullness that is early spring. Bright colours are abounding!
Beautiful spring colours!
However, for some of us, rain brings pain. Arthritic pain, depression (which IS a pain!), and cabin fever. We want to be outside at this time of year but when the rain falls, it’s difficult to get out and do the things we enjoy. I know that I want to get outside walking more, and get that bike that I bought last year out and ride it before the humidity strikes and makes me want to stay inside!
I sometimes feel like this crab when it rains!!
As I look out my window this evening, as the day begins to end, the grayness of the sky makes it look quite bleak. But I know, when the sky becomes bright in the morning, a new day has started and, with that, a new mood for the new day begins! Why don’t we all start our days with a smile and a promise to ourselves to be positive no matter the weather!
I read something very interesting today – it was a remark from someone on Facebook about how they changed their perspective simply by changing one word — “have” to “get”. It seems so simple – but is it really?
Let’s consider this – I have to go to work today – sounds like something you would probably avoid if you had the chance. Something daunting. Unpleasant.
So let’s change the words. I get to go to work today. It sounds like it’s a great thing right? It sounds like you are excited about doing it. It’s something you are looking forward to doing.
And it was such a simple change — from a 4 letter word to a 3 letter word. Have to Get.
I could think of my life in a negative way – I have to get up and run errands for my parents. Sounds negative. BUT if I change it to – I get to get up and run errands for my parents! At least to me, it sounds like a pleasant thing to do.
Let’s take it a bit further — I have to blog tonight because it’s been so long since I have. (and yes I did actually think that this morning). I changed it later today to – I get to blog tonight because I have a night off and can really think about it! I got excited by simply saying it that way.
It’s amazing that by changing that one word, how much better my day turned out. I changed the word with many things today (not just about blogging!) and it definitely turned my attitude around.
Today was a beautiful day here in Southern Ontario – and I was lucky enough to have the day off of work to get out and enjoy the weather for a few hours. I have a desire to be near water and Welland offers some beautiful waterways. I spent my afternoon sitting by the canal, writing and relaxing. It was the perfect afternoon.
July 1st is Canada Day – we celebrated 151 years of being this truly amazing country yesterday. I am a proud Canadian and no matter where I’ve been in the world, I proudly tell people that I am from this country. Here is my list of the top 5 things about Canada.
1. The people. Yes, we are the nicest people on Earth. We are humble (except for when we are playing or watching hockey….), we are polite and we are considerate. Of course there are always some bad apples but for the most part, you will encounter the nicest people here in this country.
2. The seasons. We are a vast country but we all get to enjoy the 4 seasons in all their spectacular, and sometimes tiring, way. The spring brings beautiful flowers, the sun brings the unbearable heat, the fall brings us spectacular colours and the winter brings the snow. We are a resilient group of people though, and while it’s a Canadian tradition to complain about the weather, we all come through each season just fine! Me – I am a fall/winter girl and we are having unbearable heat at the moment and I feel like I am melting — but give it a month or two and it will be gone!
3. The natural wonders of Canada – Niagara Falls, the Rocky Mountains – all across this great land we are treated with some of the most beautiful and spectacular scenery of all the world.
4. The food – okay so we have the best maple syrup in the world – we are the leaders of the world for production of maple syrup – but we also have poutine! And bear claws! We have our own unique food, as other countries around the world do, and we are proud of our uniqueness!!
5. My hometown! Welland may not be on everyone’s radar to visit, but it’s becoming a place to see for the sporting events we host on the Canal. We have some cool new places to eat, and it’s just a really pretty little city to see, even for just a couple of hours.
What is your idea of perfect happiness? Is it a person, or a place, or maybe even a thing? Is it the way you feel, or maybe what someone does for you that brings the feeling of perfect happiness?
It’s an interesting question, and not an easy one to answer. There are many things in my life that bring me happiness – my memories of my travels, and my teaching, and my students. There is a daily happiness, waking up each day knowing that I have my parents for another day. Waking up knowing that my children are healthy. Waking up knowing I get to go to a job that I truly enjoy. Waking up to having a roof over my head and food to eat. These are every day things that make me happy.
But perfect happiness – that’s a tough one to answer. My life is not perfect – no one has a perfect life. So is it possible to even have something called perfect happiness? How can a feeling be perfect, when nothing else is perfect? That’s what the question really is – what is your idea of perfect happiness?
My idea of PERFECT happiness would be, as corny as it sounds, that there would be no angst in the world, we could all live peacefully and happy together as one, there would be the perfect weather every day (no natural disasters) – so I guess my idea of perfect happiness would be living in a world of Utopia. Not very realistic!
I am content with my life – is there something missing that could make me happier? Perhaps, but that is something I will work on in time. For now – my life is perfect just the way it is. Is your’s?