Category Archives: happiness

What can you see?

Shadows, clouds in the sky, so many things that are every day events can make our imaginations play tricks on our minds. So – what can you see?

A shadow of me …. but what else can you see?

Remember when you were a child, and you’d lay on your back and look at the clouds? You’d see a dinosaur, or maybe a rabbit. Your imagination would be at play while looking at the clouds float by in the sky.

Wispy, wavy clouds

I think adults need to do this more. I was out walking today, a few times, and enjoying the gorgeous day that we had here, and I looked up at the blue skies and watched the clouds float by. They looked like waves to me today. Wispy type waves.

Reflections… and a lonely stick

I love taking pictures. I try to get a good angle when I take them to make them more interesting, at least to me! I look back at the pictures and try to see things I may have missed when taking the picture. And, maybe not surprising to some, all my pictures are taken with my phone. I love my Samsung!

Beautiful trees… that make me sneeze!

Maybe tomorrow, if the skies are blue and clouds float by, we should all take a moment and look up, stop and see what we can see.

Empowerment and self image

Do you have a positive image of yourself?  Are you happy with your body?  Are there things you want to change about your physical image to make you feel happy? 

Many questions – but they are ones I have been thinking about a lot in the past few months.  So much so that I have decided to join Weight Watchers (or WW as they are now called!), and I also am now going to the Y on a regular basis (just about every day).  Yet, I continue to self-sabotage by eating whatever I want at night – regardless of the amount of sugar is involved. 

Do I have a positive image of myself?  Yes.  I am a strong, independent woman who may be overweight but still confident about how I look.

Am I happy with my body?  Not really but that’s why I joined WW and the Y.  I am trying very hard to get my body into shape once again and feel healthy.  I have an insatiable sweet tooth and it drives me crazy but I really don’t know how to solve that (drinking water when I am hungry does NOT help, and neither do carrots!).  So, I self-sabotage with cookies (at least they are sugar free but they are still cookies!).  One day I hope to develop the self control I really want.  For now I will continue to eat, exercise and count those points with WW!

Are there things I want to change about my physical image to make me feel happy?  Yes.  I want to get back to a size 12, where I felt the best.  I want to be able to buy clothes in the departments that are not “plus size”.  I want to be able to wear a cute summer dress without worrying about my flabby arms and tummy showing. 

Self-image is such an important part of our lives, especially from the early teens.  I always considered myself as the heavy one among my friends in high school.  They could all wear cute clothes, and jeans that fit nicely.  I was always the heavy one (at least that’s how I perceived myself).  And this was in the early 80’s – long before social media and the constant stream of these images the young girls have to look at now.

I feel bad for the young girls (and boys) coming into high school, and having to deal with bullying because of an image they portray, which definitely is more prominent in this day and age.  I would love to be able to go to my old high school, and sit down with a group of young ladies in Grade 9 and explain to them that they ARE beautiful just the way they are.  Being a woman is a beautiful thing, and we all struggled in our teens with some demon in our mind telling us we weren’t good enough in some way.  I want young girls to know that this does NOT have to affect them as they grow older.  That they can take control of their lives and learn to ignore the bullying and negativity, and feel beautiful just the way they are.  No matter their size or whatever else it is that brings their self-image down. 

Empowering young women is something that I strive to do!  I want to let young women know all over the world that every single one of them is beautiful in their own way, and that they are all strong and can do whatever it is they strive to do, no matter what anyone tells them.

So yes – we may all have our doubts about ourselves now and then.  That is a normal thing!  It’s not anything unusual and we can overcome these feelings.  Just remember – we are all beautiful!

As the rain falls…

April showers bring May flowers.  Most of us have heard this all our lives.  The flowers are starting to arrive, and the colours are becoming brighter.  No longer are we seeing the dullness that is early spring.  Bright colours are abounding!

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Beautiful spring colours!

 

However, for some of us, rain brings pain.  Arthritic pain, depression (which IS a pain!), and cabin fever.  We want to be outside at this time of year but when the rain falls, it’s difficult to get out and do the things we enjoy.  I know that I want to get outside walking more, and get that bike that I bought last year out and ride it before the humidity strikes and makes me want to stay inside!

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I sometimes feel like this crab when it rains!!

 

As I look out my window this evening, as the day begins to end, the grayness of the sky makes it look quite bleak.  But I know, when the sky becomes bright in the morning, a new day has started and, with that, a new mood for the new day begins!  Why don’t we all start our days with a smile and a promise to ourselves to be positive no matter the weather!

 

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A new day is just on the horizon!!

 

 

 

I “have to” or I “get to”…

I read something very interesting today – it was a remark from someone on Facebook about how they changed their perspective simply by changing one word — “have” to “get”.  It seems so simple – but is it really?

Let’s consider this – I have to go to work today – sounds like something you would probably avoid if you had the chance.  Something daunting.  Unpleasant.

So let’s change the words.  I get to go to work today.  It sounds like it’s a great thing right?  It sounds like you are excited about doing it.  It’s something you are looking forward to doing.

And it was such a simple change — from a 4 letter word to a 3 letter word.  Have to Get.

I could think of my life in a negative way – I have to get up and run errands for my parents.  Sounds negative.  BUT if I change it to – I get to get up and run errands for my parents!  At least to me, it sounds like a pleasant thing to do.

Let’s take it a bit further — I have to blog tonight because it’s been so long since I have. (and yes I did actually think that this morning).  I changed it later today to – I get to blog tonight because I have a night off and can really think about it!  I got excited by simply saying it that way.

It’s amazing that by changing that one word, how much better my day turned out.  I changed the word with many things today (not just about blogging!) and it definitely turned my attitude around.

Try it – you may be surprised at how easy it is!

Waterways of Welland

Today was a beautiful day here in Southern Ontario – and I was lucky enough to have the day off of work to get out and enjoy the weather for a few hours.  I have a desire to be near water and Welland offers some beautiful waterways.   I spent my afternoon sitting by the canal, writing and relaxing.  It was the perfect afternoon.

 

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The 5 greatest things about Canada

July 1st is Canada Day – we celebrated 151 years of being this truly amazing country yesterday.  I am a proud Canadian and no matter where I’ve been in the world, I proudly tell people that I am from this country.  Here is my list of the top 5 things about Canada.

1.   The people.  Yes, we are the nicest people on Earth.  We are humble (except for when we are playing or watching hockey….), we are polite and we are considerate.  Of course there are always some bad apples but for the most part, you will encounter the nicest people here in this country.

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2.   The seasons.  We are a vast country but we all get to enjoy the 4 seasons in all their spectacular, and sometimes tiring, way.  The spring brings beautiful flowers, the sun brings the unbearable heat, the fall brings us spectacular colours and the winter brings the snow.  We are a resilient group of people though, and while it’s a Canadian tradition to complain about the weather, we all come through each season just fine!  Me – I am a fall/winter girl and we are having unbearable heat at the moment and I feel like I am melting — but give it a month or two and it will be gone!

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3.   The natural wonders of Canada – Niagara Falls, the Rocky Mountains – all across this great land we are treated with some of the most beautiful and spectacular scenery of all the world.

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4.   The food – okay so we have the best maple syrup in the world – we are the leaders of the world for production of maple syrup – but we also have poutine!  And bear claws!  We have our own unique food, as other countries around the world do, and we are proud of our uniqueness!!

5.   My hometown!  Welland may not be on everyone’s radar to visit, but it’s becoming a place to see for the sporting events we host on the Canal.  We have some cool new places to eat, and it’s just a really pretty little city to see, even for just a couple of hours.

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I am so very proud to be Canadian!

Perfect Happiness

What is your idea of perfect happiness?  Is it a person, or a place, or maybe even a thing?  Is it the way you feel, or maybe what someone does for you that brings the feeling of perfect happiness?

 

It’s an interesting question, and not an easy one to answer.  There are many things in my life that bring me happiness – my memories of my travels, and my teaching, and my students.  There is a daily happiness, waking up each day knowing that I have my parents for another day.  Waking up knowing that my children are healthy.  Waking up knowing I get to go to a job that I truly enjoy.  Waking up to having a roof over my head and food to eat.  These are every day things that make me happy.

 

But perfect happiness – that’s a tough one to answer.  My life is not perfect – no one has a perfect life.  So is it possible to even have something called perfect happiness?  How can a feeling be perfect, when nothing else is perfect?  That’s what the question really is – what is your idea of perfect happiness?

 

My idea of PERFECT happiness would be, as corny as it sounds, that there would be no angst in the world, we could all live peacefully and happy together as one, there would be the perfect weather every day (no natural disasters) – so I guess my idea of perfect happiness would be living in a world of Utopia.  Not very realistic!

 

I am content with my life – is there something missing that could make me happier?  Perhaps, but that is something I will work on in time.  For now – my life is perfect just the way it is.  Is your’s?

 

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