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Social Media maliciousness

Recently a post came up on Facebook that was quite malicious towards my son.  While some of the facts were true, most were not.  However, due to the audacity of people on Facebook, the post spread like wildfire with everyone believing the worst.

 

My son is no angel – I know that.  But there were also people making comments about me and my parenting.  And it has continued on through private messages to my parents – from someone who really has no right to be saying anything about me.  It has totally ruined my day today and I am filled with anger.  So despite the daily pain of my hands from the carpal tunnel – I have decided to speak out on here about social media.

 

Social media can be a great thing – keeping in touch with people while away, blogging about everything that interests us, and sharing recipes.  But social media can be life changing for people when it is used as a weapon.  And that is how I see this now.  It was a weapon against my son, who has now lost his job because the accusations that are spreading about him.  He maintains friendships with people who are his real friends but he has become an outcast in a community that he loved for so long.  Perhaps before chastising someone and spreading information about someone, people should do some research first.  Or speak firsthand to the people on both sides who are involved in a bad situation.

 

I am very good about keeping positive and I firmly believe that something positive will come of all this.  But in the meantime, I will maintain my slight bit of anger at these people and remember that while they may threaten me personally (which they have!) I am the better person and have not retaliated the same way.

Friendships and the internet

We all have friends, near or far, that are dear to our heart.  We have new friends we meet when we travel and live abroad. We have old friends from another time in our life who we will keep in touch with on occasion. Then we have our best friends, who, no matter the distance, can make us feel like we are sitting together, having a coffee and exchanging our days even when we are an ocean away.
I have many friends all over the world ~ in China, Czech Republic, Slovakia, Australia, South Korea, Great Britain. And of course in North America, particularly Canada. I have met many of my friends from traveling and on the internet. But there is one friend who is my dearest friend and, thanks to the internet, we have become closer than I ever thought possible.
We were best friends in high school, inseparable. College came and we remained close until men entered our lives and we both moved to different areas of Ontario, and started our families. We kept in touch for a few years but, as it happens as we marry and move around, we drifted apart. 
Fast forward to my 40th birthday and my mother invited her to my party. We reconnected and kept in touch through social media but not as often as I had hoped.
Last summer, when I headed to Canada for a visit before coming to China, we spent an afternoon together. And something clicked. I think all the struggles we had during those years had kept us from being close. However, we matured and with that, came a brand new light in our friendship. 
Since then, we talk almost every day, sharing what is going on in our lives, counseling each other with hard decision making, offering comfort in a difficult time when needed. I value her friendship now more than ever. I look forward to hearing her voice messages, to hear what’s happening in her life and sharing my life with her.
Friendship doesn’t have to be face to face to be close. Thanks to social media, we are all just a click away. And I am so grateful for that day last summer that reconnected me with such a great friend.
We should value all the friendships we have. Life is too short not to!